Translated from Japanese.
Original story: http://komachi.yomiuri.co.jp/t/2013/0318/580634.htm?g=04
I am 33 years old and 3 months (9 weeks) pregnant. My boyfriend works in the same company and we’d been dating for 9 months when I got pregnant. We hadn’t been using protection for the past couple of months because we planned to get married if I got pregnant. That’s why as soon as we found out I was pregnant we started making preparations for the wedding. We announced the news to our respective parents, started looking for a place to live and bought each other wedding rings that cost a few hundred thousand yen each (approx. $1000).
Unfortunately after 5 days my boyfriend made a sudden confession: “I have a child who I officially acknowledged 5 years ago. I pay 30,000 yen ($320) in support directly into my ex-girlfriend’s account every month.” He apologized for not telling me earlier, but said he didn’t trust me enough until now.
What happened was that he and his girlfriend stopped using protection right before they broke up and she got pregnant right away. She called him a month after the breakup, told him she was going to have his baby and asked him to marry her. He refused. After the baby was born his ex-girlfriend;s lawyer asked him to take a DNA test. The baby was his so after a court case he voluntarily acknowledged the child.
For my part I just can’t understand why he didn’t tell me something this important before I got pregnant. My parents are furious too and are wondering why he hasn’t apologized to them till now. They don’t trust him and are trying to persuade me to abort the baby and sue my boyfriend for compensation. His parent on the other hand haven’t contacted me, even though they know what happened.
I don’t want to fight and end up hating him just to get a little compensation money, but it’s always been my dream to have a normal, happy married life, and I can’t imagine having that with him now. My baby has done nothing wrong so I can’t abort it but I don’t think I can build a family with someone I don’t trust. He still wants to marry me.
If there’s anything I can do or something I haven’t thought of, please advise me. Please.
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